I’m just a Lady in Waiting (Fiction)

Maybe, its the season but I can not say. Like every little girl’s fantasy to one day, grow up to become a beautiful woman, meet her prince-charming and live happily ever after. (Cinderella’s story can never be erased from my head ;)).

Last month, I was planning a surprise birthday for my best friend, Tina with Sam, her boyfriend and he told me he was going to propose to her. I was so excited and started creating scenarios on how he would propose to her. Because I knew that would really make her happy and it was time for their relationship to head toward that direction.  Then, I saw the ring on her finger, it was so beautiful and we gist about the proposal moment. I could feel the love in her eyes but was never jealous about it because I wanted that for both of them since I was the matchmaker in their relationship.

A week later, Serena (a friend & sister) ping me that she has fixed the date for her court wedding. I also knew that was coming because she has been buzzing me about it for a while. But then again it occurred to me that her relationship began the same time as mine 😉 . And like every good friend, I was so happy and seeking to be involved in her wedding plans.

Surprisingly,two days later, Pamela (close friend to Tina and I) called to tell me she just got engaged. Wow!!! :O I almost hit a recharge card vendor guy, my saving grace was that I was close to my house and had enough space to maneuver my car to another direction. I drove into my premise hurriedly because I wouldn’t wait to call Pamela to get all the details. Sadly, MTN. Airtel & Etisalat did not help matters, the calls kept on cutting off.

After 30 minutes bits of on and off calls, I was able to get the full story and once again I said the cliche sentence, ‘I am so happy for you’ even went on to pray for them. When the call was over, my mood changed (thank God, she wasn’t there to see my face), I was thinking about my relationships (past and present), my heart was heavy, I slept worried that night. I tried getting through to Arthur, my boyfriend hoping that talking with him will calm me down but he did not pick my call and he sent an SMS that he was still at the office in busy in a meeting and would call me later (but he never did).

The last straw was last week, when an old friend called me out of the blue to say she was getting married in October and wanted me to be involved in her wedding 😦  . I could feel my heavy eyes, I had to compose myself because I was in the office and did not want to draw any attention to myself.I updated my bbm status to wish all my engaged girlfriends God’s blessing on their future.

I was happy for them but was I right to feel this miserable or hurt or jealous, was I becoming a bridesmaid lady or wedding planner and I want to a bride too. How can I concentrate when four girlfriends are getting engaged and planning weddings in least than two weeks?  What was the bases of my annoyance, was I scared that Arthur might hurt me like others or scared of not knowing when he would be ready for marriage since we have never spoken about it?

I decided to source for some form of inspiration from a novel; Lady in Waiting by Jackie Kendall & Debby Jones  given to me by my sister. A quote in the first chapter, hit some senses into my big skull, “…………………………A woman is not born a woman. Nor does she become one when she marries a MAN, bears a child and does their dirty linen, not even when she joins a women’s liberation movement. A woman becomes a WOMAN when she becomes what God wants her to be.” There it was, right before my eyes I must first be concerned about my relationship with God before a man.

A male lecturer, once told the ladies in my class that our youthful life was short because when we got married, we become women and can’t live our lives free- spirited or adventurous because of responsibilities bestowed upon us as a Married Woman and men enjoy their youthfulness forever (Confused). It just makes me realize how selfish my lecturer or some men were to women. Women do have their responsibilities as married woman or single ladies to the men in their lives and  they strive to keep them faithfully but that can’t be said for MEN.

Well, after deep thoughts, I decided that the good news about my friends was not worth my sadness or depression. I must live for today and let fate decide my tomorrow.

I do believe, God has drafted a list of single ladies that are going to be married soon and it just happens that most on my friends’ names were close on the list. I can’t say what my number is on the list or when my fairy tale wedding will be but one thing I know for sure is that my name is on that LIST and I’m just a Lady in Waiting……………………………………………………

(Please, note that the names in this story are fictional)

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10 thoughts on “I’m just a Lady in Waiting (Fiction)

  1. @Everyone, thank you so much for your comments. To all the ladies that can relate with this story, I say we are all on that list too (smiling) and keep growing your faith in God. He would grant your heart desires when you least expect. xoxo, Ejiro

  2. Lulu

    Great piece Ejiro … i can so relate with this, was in that same spot this week. Great job!

  3. ojay

    Nice piece…

  4. Denny

    First and foremost, great work Ejiro… I always admire creativity whenever I spot it and more so when it borders on a subject matter very close to the heart such as love, relationship and the big M.
    Dear Azubbie, I totally concur with you on this! Nobody should commit an error in judgement by making a sweeping generalisation that men objectify women in a selfish manner. Futhermore Zubbie, you’ll be making the same error on the other hand by asserting that all men do really care. I guess each individual opinion and point of view is unique and can only be assessed on a case by case basis.
    Having said that, I am still a firm believer that for every woman there is a man and vice versa. Not everyone may be privileged to find that one for them which they deem as ‘perfect’ but its our individual responsibility to build as much perfection as possible out of that one assigned to them by fate, destiny, facebook or whatever it is that thrust people together these days.


  5. Vek

    This piece hits the nail on d head wit regards to how lots of ladies really feel @ d moment. Good piece Jiro(but talk true sha…………..lol)

  6. Daffy

    Girlfriend, this is a wonderful piece… i can relate with this… but like u said der is a list and i can say we r on it!!! “Wink Wink”…

  7. Daffy

    Girlfriend, this is a wonderful piece… i can relate with this… but like u send der is a list and i can say we r on it!!! “Wink Wink”…

  8. Azubbie

    Nice. But just have issues with your comment on what men think about women – selfish is far from it. We actually care, and that’s why ladies want us to Marry them (abi?). Keep waiting ojare… 🙂

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